Fear Prevents Life Not Death

You really need to think on this one. With out a doubt it's one of the most important issues to be clear about.

You really need to think on this one. With out a doubt it’s one of the most important issues to be clear about.

I want you to think about something and if you do I promise it will be worthwhile. Might even be the most valuable time you ever expended…EVER! I want you to ask yourself an important question. But before we get to the BIG question, there are two gut-check questions you need to answer first.  If answering either of them makes you uncomfortable or uneasy, consider stopping after that point.

If either of these gut-check questions make you uneasy then you may not be ready for the bigger life altering question because whichever way you answer the BIG question, one thing’s for sure.  Your answer is first going to change your thought pattern… and when it does, what follows will be a directional change in your life’s outlook toward the future. So here we go.

First gut-check: Are you able to be 100% honest when it comes to answering questions about yourself? I mean being completely unbiased rather than siding with what you wish or hope is true about yourself… deep down inside of yourself accepting truth from fiction. Can you do it?

If you took the time to ponder the choices you've made in your life honestly would you be pleased with them?

If you took the time to ponder the choices you’ve made in your life honestly would you be pleased with them?

Second gut-check: Ask yourself… are you happy? If you’re comfortable with honestly addressing both of these questions then proceed further.

Remember if you’re not being totally honest in answering the above two gut-check questions then the only one you’ll be fooling is yourself. After reading the BIG question below, take all the time required to determine you final assessment.

The BIG question is…

Do you rule over your fears, or do your fears rule over you?

On the surface, the question is actually a simple one… BUT the deeper your thought process the more accurate your assessment. Before you jump right into your yes answer, I’ve provided a short list of topics to consider. I’m confident, if you’re taking this question seriously, and you should be, you’ll have added several more points of your own.

  1. Is your self-worth being determined by the acceptance of others?
  2. Are you content with your relationships with associates, friends and family?
  3. Are you satisfied in your choice and extent of your education?
  4. Are you happy with your choice of employment or career?
  5. If married, are you pleased in your choice of spouse?
  6. Are you content in your decision whether to have a family or not? Any regrets one way or the other?
  7. Are you Living the lifestyle that you thought you would be living?
  8. Are you living in the environment and surroundings you choose too be living in?
  9. Are you merely staying in a place because you’re already there, afraid to change what’s already familiar?
  10. Does your employment rule over you. Are you feeling stuck with no options?
  11. Are you comfortable in making decisions or do you tend to procrastinate and put them off?
  12. Are you feeling fearful of the unknown and what the future holds?
  13. Are you satisfied with the quality of your health?
  14. Are you fearful of becoming sick and and being unable to take care of yourself?
  15. Are you fearful of being alone?
  16. Are you satisfied with the quality of your diet?
  17. Do you see yourself as being trapped in your current situation with few or no viable options?
  18. Do you worry that you’re losing your freedoms?
  19. Are you concerned that you will lose your savings in the next inevitable crash?
  20. Do you feel like life is passing you by and time is running out?

These are just a few examples of factors that you should consider as you try to answer the BIG question.  If you’re truly going to take the test and answer this simple life changing question then you need to be exploring and answering without bias.

At this part of the post are you starting to question a few things about the importance of certain beliefs? Perhaps we all were a bit mis-guided in our up-bringing when it comes to beliefs. A belief is nothing more than a thought you keep having.

At this part of the post are you starting to question a few things about the importance of certain beliefs? Perhaps we all were a bit mis-guided in our up-bringing when it comes to beliefs. A belief is nothing more than a thought you keep having.

Now stop and take all the time required. It’s OK to shut down the laptop for a while and come back to it tomorrow. Grab a pen and paper and jot down the many things that should be running through you head right about now. Yes, it’s that important if you’re truly going to be evaluating your answers on this revealing question. I assure you, it’s one of, if not the most important questions you’ll ever be asked.

The whole idea of this article came about by a comment by a subscriber of our YouTube channel. It reminds me that when you reach out you’ll never know how many folks you’ll be helping. Just because of one person who I’ve never even talked to decided to make a wonderful comment on one of our YouTube’s. Now he’s potentially helping thousands of others like you. It is my sincere desire that more would eventually become so unselfish by reaching out to others they don’t even know. I copied the comment below along with my reply, so all can enjoy and hopefully benefit from it.

“Always interesting to listen to your experiences. Not many people can just get up and go to a place where you are and start a new life especially if the money isn’t there. I’m pretty sure that with your work history you had a nice amount of money to have a life there. I’m willing to make a move there but just scared, not to make it, if I go without enough money to at least have some sort of business and to start a business you need money. I’m just a realist. About 5 more weeks I will see with my own eyes what it is about Cabrera that makes it all you say it is… FYI… I do not mean any disrespect in any way just sharing my opinion with you Barry.”

My Answer:

No disrespect ever taken. Really it’s not a big deal living the way that I have been for so long. As for me I’m nowhere near rich. I’ve lived in countries with less than 2000 in savings. It’s more about believing in yourself and answering a very important question. Do you rule over you fear or does your fear rule over you. Fear does not prevent death or failure but rather prevents life and success. Think about it and depending on how you answer that question will certainly determine in a big way which direction your future progresses.

Take a few moments and ponder these following thoughts. Most of our common fears are either fears of the unknown, of death and of failure. All three amount to little more than a person’s choice on from which angle they’re viewing the box (Subject).

Fear does not prevent death or failure but rather prevents life and success

As tought as it is to honestly level with yourself in the end will be the best decision you ever made to enhance the quality of your life. Hell if it was easy then everyone would be doing it right?

As tough as it is to honestly level with yourself in the end will be the best decision you ever made to enhance the quality of your life. Hell if it was easy then everyone would be doing it right?

Take the first example if you will. Fear of the unknown. Well if it’s unknown, what’s there to be fearful of? Take this a bit further and look into you own personal past. For an overwhelming percentage of you, ask yourself the following. How many of my worst darkest fears have actually materialized? Chances are not many. Perhaps the better question you should be asking yourself is why do you spend so much of your time worrying about them in the first place?

Moving on to door number two let’s consider the fear of death. Stop being fearful. I can assure you… it’s going to happen. If it’s certainly going to happen, then why not choose to concentrate more on living life than worrying about the thought of death. Why not choose to spend more of your time towards better creating ways to experience life now.

Sorry to be the tranquilizer at anybody’s party, but we’re all going to eventually die. I might suggest that a large part of this fear might be laid to rest by asking yourself the following question. How do you view death? Do you view death as an  ending or as a beginning? Once again depending on how you answer this question will have a strong bearing on how comfortable you are with it.

Moving onto our last door number three. Let’s peak behind the curtain of mystery and see what awaits. And behind the curtain is… The fear of failure. Failure is the view most people reveal when what they perceived should have happened… didn’t happen. REMEMBER, for anything to happen… first there must be choice. If you didn’t like the path that opened with your choice it’s a rather easy solution. MAKE ANOTHER CHOICE!

You could have never gotten to where you presently are without first making some sort of choice. For most situations, there really is no right or wrong, there are only choices.  If you don’t care for the one you previously made, simply make another one and see where that path leads to.

The only thing in common with all of these examples is fear….

FEAR will prevent change, success and happiness. FEAR will not prevent death, taxes or failure.

There are no simple black and white answers for the subject of life. For each of us it's myriad of multiple shades of grey but if blended correctly reveals one of the most beautiful pictures imaginable.

There are no simple black and white answers for the subject of life. For each of us it’s myriad of multiple shades of grey but if blended correctly reveals one of the most beautiful pictures imaginable.

You can’t prevent fear if fear is already what you’re experiencing. At this point another very important topic to bring up is momentum. Momentum works equally in both directions. Either positive or negitive and it’s fair to mention… once momentum picks up velocity it’s already too late. Understand momentum. You don’t want to instantly change direction (momentum) of a train already traveling at 100 MPH (velocity). Why? Because it will damage the contents inside (You).

Once momentum is in play, these kinds of changes in direction or thought must be made gradually. That being the case, still the best time to prevent momentum from building strength is in its earliest stages. You might want to keep that thought in mind when it comes to viewing your present circumstances. If you do, a lot of pressure will be lifted off your shoulders.

Most of us are very familiar with the saying “when I see it I’ll believe it.” But the reality of it is since our universe works on the law of attraction, shifting a couple of words around  to make the previous saying read “when you believe it you’ll see it” would be more accurate on how it unveils.

Many of you who’ve gotten to know me over the phone might have heard me mention the following analogy. “you’re trying to see the view from the top of the staircase and you haven’t even taken the first step yet. The views change with every step you take along the path of new experiences”.

What does this mean? For example here are some of the most common questions I field.

  • How can I make a living? The answer to that might lie somewhere between steps three and four.
  • Is it safe there? The answer to that could exist somewhere around the second step.
  • What products are available?
  • What about the people?
  • Can I afford to live there?
  • ETC ETC.

While we as people differ greatly when it comes to our questions about a plan B, they seem to be very similar in nature. My answer to the many folks who are stuck in fear or procrastination will always be the same. There’s no right or wrong… there’s only choices. Make a choice and if you’re not happy with, it simply make another choice… PERIOD!

In reality not every door is locked and even if it seems to you that it is not every deadbolt works.

In reality not every door is locked and not every deadbolt works.

As just mentioned, nothing happens till you first make a choice. When it comes down to determining if the DR is right for your plan B, the logical choice to me would be first fly here and experience the country for yourself. Because, if it doesn’t appeal to you, everything else after that just got swept off of the table…right? A second point I’d like you to consider is this. Know it or not, in your entire life you were never able to see the view from the top of the staircase without climbing it one step at a time. NEVER!

For example lets choose the subject of career. First plateau… what do I want to do? Then came the research on what STEPS (Pun intended) are necessary in order to get yourself there. Climbing a bit higher the choice of education that’s required. How do I obtain the funding? Where will I live and so on and so on?

By now I hope you’re beginning to realize that even without you being aware of it you’ve been living in this manor for most of your adult life. Perhaps that’s why it amazes me when it comes to this one topic called relocation why so many get so confused? Remember if you don’t like anything just make another choice! This is a universal agreement and not my thoughts.

So I ask you again.  Do you rule over your fears, or do your fears rule over you?  There’s just no way around it, depending on how you answer that question will determine in a big way which direction your future progresses.  Your present moment is what every step, every breath and every death has led to.

Until next time this is Barry in DR.

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Dwight Ryder March 5, 2015 at 3:56 pm

Excellent article. School age children should learn this as early as possible.
This being said, where does one begin when considering a move to the DR?
Cheers,
Dwight Ryder

Barry March 5, 2015 at 9:46 pm

Hello Dwight. I think the first thing when considering a move anywhere is actually go there. It’s always more productive if there’s someone you know who can show you the real deal rather than the tourist scenes. After a few days meeting the locals and expats you’ll develope a feeling from inside yourself. Remember your emotions are you built in guidance system so trust them. If any place feels right (or wrong) your emotional feelings are always going to let you know. Another very important thing to remember is this. Anytime someone ( that includes me ) gives you their their thoughts it is only based on their own experiences. Nothing more. Hope this helps you at least a bit.
B

Dwight Ryder March 20, 2015 at 7:27 pm

Thanks Barry: What’s involved to enable one to participate in one of your Discovery tours? Cheers.

Barry March 21, 2015 at 5:55 pm

Reach out to me and together we’ll go over it
B

Kirk March 5, 2015 at 9:24 pm

Barry this post helps answer so many questions. The questions make you look into your heart and ask yourself is this for me? Great post!! Answered so many questions for us. People always think you need to be wealthy to have such a life. I used to think the same way, until I started speaking to you. You have helped open our eyes wider and see different angles. Thanks again for this post!

Barry March 5, 2015 at 9:50 pm

Really glad it helped.
B

john March 6, 2015 at 1:48 am

Great post, we all have had fears and some of still do question things,taking that first step is the key to overcoming some of those fears.Over 5 years ago i made the decision to call the Dr my permenant home.I started an English school ,something i thought i would never do.
Now after many sacrifices and challenges into unknown areas i have realized that if you do not take the risks the rewards to a better life will not come your way.Here i do not make as much money as i did in the UK or the US where i previously lived and worked but my life is happier, less stressful ,healthier and with more freedom to pick and choose my schedule.Simplicity makes things easier,if you sit back and analyze what are the most important things in life you can be a happier person,Keeping things simple makes life a lot easier and happier.Regards jb

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